Developing Psychic Armor
Every so often a word or phrase comes along that explains a rather complex concept with brevity and clarity – — here are a few examples:
- groupthink — a word that refers to the phenom of indoctrination in a group setting
- mancave – a guy’s guy room — it may or may not have a pool table, but definitely has a large screen t.v with every sports channel bundle known to man.
- bromance — a term to describe a guy’s best friend relationship with another guy
I came across another one of word play gems recently: “Psychic Armor”
In one of her posts, Jeanette Lewis of postworksavvy.com refers to psychic armor as something we do to limit our exposure to people or situations that are toxic or harmful. It can also refer to rituals or thoughts we turn to when we feel as if we have no control over a situation, whether it’s because of a phobia we may have (such as fear of flying) or a medical crisis that must be faced.
Simply put, psychic armor refers to setting boundaries on thoughts, situations, or people we find “particularly challenging”, as described by the blog This Psychic Life
Following are some prime examples of making good use of our psychic armor:
- Reminding yourself that “this too shall pass” after experiencing a conflict with a friend or coworker. A friend of mine once said that if you feel as if you need to handle a situation “right this minute,” chances are you probably shouldn’t. Waiting things out tends to smooth out most interpersonal wrinkles.
- Being kind to someone who is a bully — for the most part, most people, even truly irritable moodkillers, are totally disarmed when you “kill ’em with kindness,” or “under-react” to their intimidation tactics. Quite frankly, it takes the wind right out of their sails, while leaving your own equanimity and calm fully intact.
- Realizing that it’s okay if you can’t handle more than a few short hours with family members who tend to suck all of the air out of the room when they make their entrance into it. Decide what you can take, then gracefully make an exit when you’ve reached your limit.
- Driving yourself to certain events so that you don’t have to depend on when others arrive or leave — I discovered a long time ago that it’s a lot easier to just come and go according to my own schedule than it is to depend on those who may not care one flying flip about what my plans are for the rest of the day.
- Taking a deep breath and calling on your Higher Power when you are boarding a plane and your fear of flying is as securely fastened to your person as your seat belt.
The bottom line is that psychic armor is a little bit of self love — respecting ourselves enough to establish boundaries regarding certain people and situations that drain our precious energy. In order to love others, we must be kind to ourselves.